Signs a Man Wants to Be With You long term.
- Jace Kimani
- Nov 9, 2017
- 5 min read
This is a question I was asked, and compiling it has taken almost two months :). Fortunately, there are some pretty strong telltale signs that a guy is serious about you. Things most guys do when they really love a woman.
He is Open.
When he is in love, he expresses himself freely, talks about the future, and tells you how much you mean to him. If he does not talk openly with you, then it’s a sign that he most likely does not feel the way that you want him to feel you, in a relationship
He wants to know you.
A guy who likes you, can sit for hours and hours talking with you, because he wants to know everything about you. He asks a ton of questions. He pays attention and remembers he little details. He’s genuinely curious about you and wants to discover all there is to know.
He tells you where you stand with him.
He does not beat around the bush. He tells you that he wants to be exclusive. You know exactly where you stand with him.
When he does not make his intentions known and you don’t know if you are exclusive. You just happen to think you are. You’re not official!
A man who wants a relationship with you will make it clear that he wants you and only you, he would not leave things open to guess work and risk losing you to some other guy!
He Keeps His Promises.
He does not stand you up, unless it's an emergency or beyond his means. In which case, he tells you immediately. Because, he does not want to disappoint you. . And if he does disappoint you, he will feel upset and will do whatever he can to make it up to you. As he becomes more invested, you become more and more important to him
If it’s obvious to you that he makes you a priority, makes an effort not to flake or leave you hanging, sticks to his word (i.e if he says he’ll call you at 7, he will be calling at 7!, well not exactly, but something close to), you can be sure that he’s serious about you.
You are a Priority.
A bit more of the previous point. You come first in his life most of the time. You obviously can’t be first every single time, that’s just not possible. Sometimes other things will take precedence. However,even when that happens he let's you know that you are important to him.
Being a priority does not mean he’s going to abandon everything else going on in his life to spend all his time with you. And who wants to be in a relationship like that anyway, it’s toxic!
Being a priority means you matter to him, you’re important to him. He won’t cancel plans last minute (only in emergencies), and he won’t make last minute plans. He won’t leave you hanging and waiting on him, and, he works out space for you in his life, you don’t shove your way in there.
Finally you don’t question how he feels, you don’t wonder. You just know.
His actions speak louder than words.
Talk is just that! And it can be cheap. It’s easy to say you love someone, showing it is a different story. A man’s actions show you exactly where he stands.
When a man is serious about you, it is written all over. It’s in how he looks at you and treats you, and the things he does. He wants to be exclusive to you. He’ll cut off contact with exes, booty calls, and girls he was “talking” to. You become the main woman in his life.
He is Settled in His Life.
If he has a job. He’s financially stable and happy with his job.He has dishes and even knows how to cook :) (not literally, but you get the point). Timing is everything.
If he still wants to go out there and live it up and wild, he probably won’t want to settle down anytime soon.
If he’s serious, he wants a committed relationship and what comes with it. Attentiveness, commitment, creating a life (present and future) together.
Remember, when a man says he does not want a relationship, he means it!
Your Opinion Counts.
When he has a problem, he asks for your opinion, listens and puts it into consideration. Your thoughts and feelings mater. He respects what you say. If he rolls his eyes and makes you feel stupid, you will never hold conversations sensibly.
Talks About the Future.
He talks about the future and the things you could do together. His vision of the future includes you, and he makes that known to you. And I don't mean unrealistic plans, like suggesting you quit your jobs and travel the world together. He’ll talk in concrete terms, he will let you know he wants to move in with you when his lease ends on June 1st (my birthday ;)) and if you would like to start looking for a place. He will have clear goals and deadlines, and work towards a future that brings you in deeper.
He cares to see you happy.
It's no his responsibility to make you happy, it's yours...However, he does whatever he can to make you happy because, your happiness makes him happy. He pays attention to your wants and needs and puts an effort to fulfill them. All a man really needs to be happy in a relationship is for his woman to be happy. That’s pretty much it.
He does whatever he can,listens to your requests, tries to accommodate your wishes, and does things you say make you happy, happily because he wants to make you happy.
Communicates.
He always lets you know when something comes up, however small. He does not ghost on you, and act like it’s okay and only to get annoyed when you ask where he’s been. He stays in regular contact with you. He lets you know when he will be busy or held up. He considers your feelings, and he keeps you in the loop (it's called courtesy!)
You don’t get that sickening, funeral feeling in the pit or your stomach that he suddenly lost interest and is “ghosting” you. If for whatever reason, he goes MIA for an extended period of time without reaching out (I’m talking, like, a day, not days), you know it’s because he has a good reason…and he does!
He spends time with you, and loves it!
The determiner on if a guy will commit to a woman is how good he feels when he is with her. Guys move towards what feels good. That time when he can’t get enough of you.
He Respects You.
He takes your pace and does not find a need to move faster than you want to. He respects your needs. If you wanted to wait before getting intimate, he’s okay with it. He does not pressure you in any way.
He let's you into his world
If he like you, he wants you to like the things that he likes. He lets into his world. He wants to show you his favorite everything – movies, books, activities, and hobbies. He does not expect you to love these things as much as he does, but he still wants to share.
You know his family and friends, not just meeting them.
It’s Effortless
Being with him is easy. You are relaxed and can just be. You don’t have to write and rewrite a text a hundred times before pressing send button. You don’t stress over the relationship, you just enjoy your time together.
You just know that he wants to be with you. Other people can tell as well. He’s told you he does. You might be insecure sometimes, from past unresolved wounds, but overall, you feel safe and secure in the relationship. You know he cares and you know that he is not going anywhere.
N/B; This is not the ultimatum....He doesn't have to pass all this, but some are pretty obvious. Bring out your audacious!
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