How to kill anger,criticism,whining,you name it,in marriage

Marriage has it all...it goes from oh so sweet, to oh what the heck just happened! and vice versa.

And it all happens so fast...and sometimes its over very stupid,senseless stuff ,that we later sit and wonder how?! why?! me?! really?!

The key to a successful marriage is communication,sacrifice and compromise. Sometimes it can be one sided, and frustrating...

The happily ever after is work in progress.

Sitting down as two grown ups and talking things over, and finding a solution together is very important.However it's not always as easy as that...I mean with ideological differences, and sometimes not wanting to compromise, or whining for whatever reason...you name it.

Heck I am done whining :) , here is the tip;

We sat down, and both me and my partner wrote down a list of unacceptable things. We then read them through and agreed on a term that so far has been life changing.

This is the rule in my house; For every whining, shouting or whatever else one of us counts as unacceptable leaves a hole in the wallet.

You have to drop five pounds in a piggy bank for every single word in an angry sentence, or high pitched wordings or whatever else that is unacceptable.

The first time we did it, my husband wouldn't stop going on and on despite me counting the money out...but by the time I was saying 35 pounds his tone was low, but he still went on. Eventually he was quiet and we were able to talk through the issue and find a solution. And for the best part...he was happy with how everything had resolved that he didn't mind emptying his wallet off a few bank notes.

*It's important to do this with a lot of understanding and love...don't be harsh because you too will have to empty your wallet. It's all about learning to control yourselves and mature together.

Tell me how you deal with anger and whining below.